God is With Us in Our Fears

Simple sayings like “Joy to the World” and “Peace on Earth” pop up everywhere during the holiday season. There is another phrase recorded multiple times in the Christmas story, but we rarely see it printed on cards or included in song lyrics: “Do not be afraid.” We often overlook the fear that is woven throughout the Christmas story, but on at least three separate occasions, angels addressed it with different characters—Joseph, Mary and the Shepherds. All of them received the same reassurance:

^“But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, ‘Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.’”  (Matthew 1:20)

“But the angel said to her, ‘Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God. You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus.’” (Luke 1:30-31)

“And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, ‘Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.’” (Luke 2:8-12)

Many of us don’t like talking about our fears, let alone admitting we have them at all. Yet, there is great freedom when we acknowledge them to God and remember that He is with us, just as He was with Joseph, Mary and the shepherds.  He’s always ready to trade our fears for His unparalleled hope, courage and peace. The command “do not be afraid,” is intended for us today as much as it was meant for those familiar characters in the nativity story.

Looking back, I see how God has revealed Himself to me during many fearful moments in my life. I’ve found comfort, courage and hope when I’ve given my fear to Him and have remembered that He is “Immanuel… God with us.” (Matthew 1:23) My most vivid memory of this happened during an especially difficult season in my life a little over a decade ago.

My Dad’s health had been deteriorating rapidly as he neared the final stages of a neurological disease that had slowly frozen the muscles in his body.  A fall at home had landed him in the hospital and shortly after, he’d been transferred to a skilled nursing facility. Although he was slated to “rehabilitate” from a bruised hip bone, we all knew he was in his final days.

Because my dad’s disease was so advanced, he needed one-on-one care beyond what the facility could provide. While we figured out what to do, family members had to take shifts watching over him. One of my brothers had stayed with him the first night while we scrambled to make longer term plans. Standing at the foot of my dad’s bed the second night, my stomach lurched when I realized it made the most sense for me to take the next shift. Fear gripped me even as the words tumbled out of my mouth, “I’ll stay with Dad tonight.”

After saying goodbye to my family and sharing a quick prayer in the parking lot with my husband, I steeled myself for the night ahead. I had to confront my fear head on, there was no way around it. Although the facility’s staff was just down the hall, I fretted that I wouldn’t know what to do if something went wrong with my dad in such a fragile state. Instead of letting fear paralyze me, I opened my Bible and began reading different sections aloud. Favorite passages took on deeper meaning under the circumstances. I’ll never forget reading this prayer to him:

“On my bed I remember you; I think of you through the watches of the night. Because you are my help, I sing in the shadow of your wings. I cling to you; your right hand upholds me.” (Psalm 63:6-8)

After reading several more passages and praying with my dad, I turned out the lights and tried to settle into the chair next to his bed. Listening to the rattle of his irregular breathing kept me from drifting off, so I continued to pray silently. As the evening unfolded, I had a first-hand experience with the words of the psalm, clinging to God and letting His Word encourage me. I trusted that His right hand was upholding us and drew courage from that. I took comfort knowing my dad and I were sheltered in the shadow of His wings. The Lord’s presence in the room was palpable.

What could have been a horrific night for me turned out to be one of the most sacred I’ve experienced. Knowing God was present, I leaned into Him and entrusted Him with my fear, which allowed me to experience His nearness in a way I never had before.

I wonder if it was similar for the Shepherds on the night of Jesus’ birth. What could have been a terrifying experience became a holy moment because they trusted God’s words delivered by the angels, “Do not be afraid.” Instead of backing away and avoiding their fear, they listened and acted on what they’d been told:

 “When the angels had left them and gone into heaven, the shepherds said to one another, ‘Let’s go to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened, which the Lord has told us about.’ So they hurried off and found Mary and Joseph, and the baby, who was lying in the manger. When they had seen him, they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child, and all who heard it were amazed at what the shepherds said to them.” (Luke 2:15-18)

Think of what they would have missed if they’d shrunk back in fear when the angels proclaimed the Messiah’s birth. I know what I would’ve missed if I’d refused to stay with my dad or hadn’t invited God into the room that night.

Any time we face our fears and trust the Lord to walk with us through them, we open ourselves to seeing Him work in mighty ways. Will you let your fears paralyze you, or will you face them knowing He is with you? Let the chorus of Josh Baldwin’s song “Stand in Your Love” give you courage today.

All Scriptures quoted from the New International Version.