Roving between tables in the cafeteria, I stopped to chat with various kids while trying not to embarrass my son. Monthly volunteering for middle school lunch duty wasn’t always convenient, but it enabled me to be on campus and keep my finger on the pulse of my boys’ environment.
I noticed that at certain tables, twenty or more students packed in shoulder to shoulder, using every square inch of space provided. Latecomers perched on the corners of the benches, trying to maintain a spot at coveted tables. Meanwhile, other tables had a five or six kids spread out with ample space in between. To those unfamiliar with the social code of middle school, it made no sense. But in a matter of minutes, I recognized what was happening.
There were invisible boundaries and social norms the students followed without question. Kids who had found a sense of belonging fiercely banded together in tight groups, looking inward. The social pecking order dictated who could sit at what table. And those who didn’t play by the rules or who weren’t aware of them were left to fend for themselves in the social jungle.
It didn’t take long to see my son hadn’t found his place. At the start of the year he’d drifted to a table with a group of boys who were all drawn by one classmate with a magnetic personality. But when that boy transferred to another school, those remaining splintered apart. My son was left at a table with kids whose rough language and graphic conversation topics made him squeamish. Seeing him sitting miserably in the lunchroom made my heart ache.
At home, my husband and I tried to discuss it with him. We brainstormed other groups he could sit with and suggested ways he could ask to join them. He balked at the idea of switching tables saying, “People don’t do that. You can’t just move from one table to another.” Despite his misery, no amount of reasoning seemed to penetrate his stubborn shell. Finally, in desperation, my husband pulled out his wallet, held up a $10 bill and said, “I’ll give you this if you switch tables tomorrow.” Raising his eyebrows and flashing a grin, our son replied, “Done.”
A simple change from one table to another made a significant impact on his experience at school. The improved atmosphere with new table mates allowed him to have a more positive outlook and attitude overall. It may sound funny, but I remembered that situation as I was studying Psalm 23:5 recently, “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; my cup runs over.” (NKJV)
Jennifer Rothschild explains, “For thousands of years tables have been the gathering places, the depositories, the launching pads” for so many of life’s moments. (page 142) Think of the table not just as a literal object, but a symbol of a place we engage relationships, trade information, find respite, and receive sustenance. Now think of the places in your life where you pull up a chair regularly. Who are your table mates? How are they flavoring the atmosphere of your surroundings? How are you seasoning theirs? Next, consider it on a spiritual level. Are you saying “yes” to the Lord’s invitation to sit at the table He’s prepared for you? Or, are you struggling like my son was, stuck in miserable situations but unable to risk a change?
Jesus extends a clear invitation to anyone who wants to follow Him: “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” (Revelation 3:20, NIV) Jennifer Rothschild explains “In a figurative sense, God’s table is His favor, blessing, and communion extended to us. It’s an invitation to partake of the good things of God. It’s an opportunity to accept God’s provision, experience His protection, and enjoy His pleasure.” (p. p.143) It starts by opening the door to begin a relationship with Him. After that, we determine how often we pull up a seat at His table to continue growing deeper. The more we do, the more we’re able to recognize His hand at work: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:2, NIV)
The second part of Psalm 23:5 also has profound implications: “God prepares a table before you, and it is in front of your enemy, not with your enemy.” (Rothschild, p. 152) Our common enemy goes by many names. He’s a crafty serpent (Genesis 3:1), Satan the accuser (Zechariah 3:1), the devil who tempts (Matthew 4:1), a stumbling block (Matt 16:23), the murderer and father of lies (John 8:44), the thief who steals, kills and destroys, (John 10:10), the schemer (Ephesians 6:11), the prowling lion looking for someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8).
Sometimes, we unwittingly give the enemy a seat at our tables. He uses many methods to worm his way into our lives to steal our joy and take our eyes off of the truth and hope found in Jesus. Right now, he’s capitalizing on the COVID-19 pandemic to incite fear, panic, and hopelessness. But we don’t have to fall for his tricks. We can uninvite him from our tables by claiming the truth in God’s Word for ourselves.
“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.” (1 Peter 5:8-9, NIV)
“Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” (Ephesians 6:10-18, NIV)
While we don’t have a choice sheltering at home during the coronavirus pandemic, we do have a choice about where we engage our minds. How much time are you spending at tables of fear, frustration, impatience, worry, or self-pity? Maybe it’s time to find a better balance. Pull up a chair at the Lord’s table and enjoy a moment with Elevation Worship right now. Let the words of “The Blessing” pour out over you and fill your heart and mind with God’s truth today.
*For a more in-depth look at Ephesians 6:10-18, check out my 7-part series on The Armor of God: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4, Part 5, Part 6, Part 7 .
Jennifer Rothschild, Psalm 23: The Shepherd with Us, Lifeway Press, 2018.
