Continuing our walk through the Gospel of Matthew, this portion opens with the transfiguration. Once again, Matthew gives hard evidence to show Jesus as the long- awaited King of Kings. In this scene, James, John and Peter witness Jesus transfiguring from the Rabbi they know to the Son of Man shining brilliantly in His glorified form and talking with Moses and Elijah. Reminiscent of the baptism of Jesus, they hear the voice of the Father speaking, “This is my Son, whom I love, with him I am well pleased. Listen to him!” (Matthew 17:5, NIV)
In the rest of the chapter Jesus continues to emphasize purity heart and the pursuit of righteousness. He heals a demon-possessed boy, answers questions about paying taxes to Caesar, and emphasizes that the greatest citizens in His kingdom approach Him with childlike faith. Chapter 19 includes an extended discussion on divorce and a conversation between Jesus and a wealthy young man about whole-heartedly following Him.
Sandwiched in the middle of all this action chapter 18 includes three related teachings about relationships. First, Jesus tells the parable of the Lost Sheep:
“What do you think? If a man owns a hundred sheep, and one of them wanders away, will he not leave the ninety-nine on the hills and go to look for the one that wandered off? And if he finds it, truly I tell you, he is happier about that one sheep than about the ninety-nine that did not wander off. In the same way your Father in heaven is not willing that any of these little ones should perish.” (Matthew 18:12-14, NIV)
One commentary explains, “God does not abandon the 99. They are already safely in His kingdom, attended by His angels, and guided by His Holy Spirit (Romans 8:14; Hebrews 13:5). But His heart aches for those not yet in the fold. So the Good Shepherd pursues the lost sheep, woos them, calls to them, and allows circumstances into their lives designed to make them look up… The 99 are still important to Him, but He knows the flock is not complete without the lost sheep. And a good shepherd always goes after the lost sheep.”1
In this first illustration Jesus shows the Father’s deep love for each individual person and the effort He expends to pursue and rescue every lost soul. In the next section, He shows our part in restoring “lost sheep” to the fold through confronting sin: “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.” (Matthew 18:15-17, ESV)
The process Jesus lays out escalates incrementally, with each step involving the fewest number of people possible. “Only in rare cases will a Christian seeking to follow the Lord refuse to resolve conflict when the entire congregation is involved… Finally, if the person in the center of the conflict refuses to respond positively even when the entire congregation is involved, then that person is to be considered as ‘a pagan or a tax collector.’ This simply means… removing the negative influence from the congregation.”2
Whether we’ve been personally affected by sin of another or are witnessing how it’s tainting the body of believers, the goal of addressing it remains the same: to restore the sinner to righteous living. Biblical, healthy confrontation seeks to reconcile broken relationships affected by behavior that dishonors God.
While eliminating someone from a congregation sounds harsh and final, the next teaching emphasizes the importance of forgiveness. In this parable, a servant owing a king a large sum of money begs for more time to repay him. The gracious king cancels the debt and allows the servant to go. The same servant then demands a miniscule debt from one of his fellow servants be repaid immediately. When the man can’t pay, the servant calls for him to be thrown in prison. The forgiving king learns this news, summons the unmerciful servant and says, “You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ Jesus concludes by saying “And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.” (Matthew 18:32-35, ESV)
This parable urges us to remember that even when we’ve been hurt or offended, we’re called to forgive. We cannot withhold from others what has been freely given to us—especially knowing it was purchased by the blood of Christ. As far as it depends upon us, the door for reconciliation must always remain open: “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” (Romans 12:17-18, ESV)
We can’t control how others respond in challenging relational circumstances, but “Christians are called to handle disputes in love, with a goal of restoration. Conflict should be handled according to the steps listed in Matthew 18. This style of conflict resolution is based on a desire for holy living and love for the person who has committed wrong.”3
The Message paraphrase of Matthew 18:18-20 sums up Jesus’ teaching on conflict saying: “Take this most seriously: A yes on earth is yes in heaven; a no on earth is no in heaven. What you say to one another is eternal. I mean this. When two of you get together on anything at all on earth and make a prayer of it, my Father in heaven goes into action. And when two or three of you are together because of me, you can be sure that I’ll be there.”4
The biblical response to conflict stands in sharp contrast to typical worldly reactions such as avoidance, resentment, retaliation, and gossip. It takes prayer and intentionality to change our usual default modes. So, responding to sin and conflict by obeying Jesus’ teaching creates yet another opportunity to reveal His upside-down kingdom to a world that desperately needs Him.
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- “Why Would God Leave the 99 to Find the 1?” gotquestions.org
- “How Should Christians Handle Disputes (Matthew 18:15-17)? gotquestions.org
- ibid
- Eugene Peterson, The Message, NavPress, 1993