An Honest Look at Priorities

It was one of the strangest, but most memorable gifts I’ve ever received—a clear jar filled with whole walnuts surrounded by grains of rice. The note attached to it explained that if I opened and removed the contents, I would learn a valuable lesson. If I put the rice back first, the walnuts wouldn’t fit on top. However, if I started with the walnuts, the miniscule grains of rice would nestle in the small spaces that remained between the nuts.

It was a visual reminder to help me prioritize wisely in the daily activities I chose. And one of the most important priorities I’ve discovered over the years is spending time with God daily. Bible teacher Priscilla Shirer explains, “Most of us feel we don’t have enough time to meditate on God’s Word, but—let’s be honest. We have time for anything we make time for. It all comes down to priorities.” (p. 91). In Discerning the Voice of God, she lists various activities we may prioritize over reading the Bible; things like watching TV, reading magazines, surfing the internet or talking on the phone. (If you’re doing the study, you’ll see what I’m talking about on page 90). 

Most of the distractions on her list are activities of leisure that steal our time. But many of the people I rub shoulders with regularly have lists that look a bit different.  It’s the necessary parts of life that often create a sense of urgency and cause us to get our priorities out of balance. I’m talking about things like running errands, cleaning, exercising, cooking, driving kids, helping with homework, grocery shopping, working, volunteering, e-mailing, caring for grandchildren, or going to medical appointments. I think it’s the mundane daily tasks like these that tend to pull us away from time with God more often than activities of leisure. After all, they must be done to keep life clicking along at a steady hum.

And that’s where the rice and walnuts provide some needed perspective. I think many of us view Bible reading and prayer as luxuries rather than necessities. We see them as the grains of rice to fit around the big, important “walnuts” in our lives. Prayer is a last resort when we’ve tried everything else. Similarly, reading the Bible is a thing we “should” do, if only we had the time. The “walnuts” on our to do lists demand our time and attention because they must be accomplished.

We get caught in a vicious cycle when our priorities are skewed. The things we think are the important “walnuts” prevent us from focusing on what really matters. Here’s how Jesus explained it: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life. And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:25-34, NIV)

Essentially Jesus says that the cares of this world are the rice and seeking Him is the walnut. There are several key phrases we can’t miss in the passage. First, Jesus says, “your heavenly Father knows that you need them.” This means we don’t need to fixate on running after the necessities of life because God is our provider.  He orchestrates events to make sure we have what we need, so we don’t have to spend time fretting over these things. Instead, He invites us to seek Him first, knowing that “all these things will be given to you as well.” In other words, if the jar represents our day and we put the “walnuts” in first by spending time with God, there will also be room for the “rice” of tending to our responsibilities.

If the idea of spending time with the Lord before you tackle your day sounds impossible, can I invite you to try it as an experiment for a week and see what happens? Be intentional about planning it out the night before so you can try to develop a new pattern for your mornings. Personally, I’ve discovered that when I start my day with the Lord, everything else just falls into place. The things I need to accomplish get done or I realize they can be finished later. Sometimes what seemed urgent really wasn’t that important. And many times, something that felt like a daunting and time consuming task ends up taking much less time than I anticipated. The best part is that my heart and mind are aligned with the Holy Spirit. I have more grace and patience to offer others, a more positive outlook on my day, and a healthier reaction when I encounter frustrations. Why not give it a try and see what happens?

The best way to start is by praying and asking God to help you prioritize your time. Ask Him to increase your ability and desire to spend time with Him reading the Bible and praying daily. “As you seek to hear the Holy Spirit speak through Scripture, you are tuning your spiritual ears to catch that moment when a passage, verse or phrase—or even just a single word—grasps your attention in an almost shocking way, drawing your thoughts directly toward it and how it applies to a specific situation in your life.” (p. 87) When we draw near to God consistently, this opens opportunities for us to discern His voice. 

Listen to Lauren Daigle’s song “First” and make it your prayer today.

Prisciilla Shirer, Discerning the Voice of God: How to Recognize When God Speaks, Lifeway Press, 2018.