Walking onto the high school campus that first day, I’d never felt more out of place. There was nothing I could do to blend in with the crowd or appear as if I belonged. The color of my skin simply wouldn’t allow for it.
Although I’d been studying at a large university just ten miles away, the section of the city where I would be student teaching was a world apart. I had no frame of reference to connect with the kids and I was profoundly aware of my status as an outsider. Although we lived in the same city, our cultures, past times, clothing, food, slang terms, and world views were completely different.
I knew my students were wary of me, but also a little curious. The chance to interact with someone from my background didn’t happen for them very often. And I knew that if I wanted to become a good teacher, I had to figure out how we could connect.
Over the course of my semester student teaching, I struggled to balance the tension of being an outsider while trying to engage with the kids in my classes. Not all of them responded to my efforts, but by the end of the year, I had given them all I had to offer. I’d learned about myself and had grown as a teacher in the process. I think those who gave me a chance learned a few things too.
I thought about that experience recently as I read the section of First Peter where Christians are admonished to live as strangers in the world. Each translation of 1 Peter 1:17 says it a little differently, but the combination of several of them gives a complete picture:
“Since you call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear.” (NIV, italics added for emphasis)
“And if you call on him as Father who judges impartially according to each one’s deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your exile.” (ESV, italics added for emphasis)
“And remember that the heavenly Father to whom you pray has no favorites. He will judge or reward you according to what you do. So you must live in reverent fear of him during your time here as ‘temporary residents.’” (NLT, italics added for emphasis)
Living as an outsider, a foreigner, an exile, or a temporary resident should not be a new concept to anyone who follows Jesus. If we’re serious about being set apart for God, we won’t blend in with those who embrace worldly perspectives. Our focus on living biblically will inform our worldview, actions, choices and attitudes. We’ll hold loosely to this world because we know better things are yet to come.
Striking the delicate balance of remaining an outsider while finding connecting points with non-believers is key. Just like I had to find common ground with my students to earn their trust and respect, we must do the same to share the hope of Jesus with others. As we seek ways to be culturally relevant, we must also be careful to live “in reverent fear,” recognizing that our love for God means not participating in behaviors that would dishonor Him. It can be a tricky balance at times. Peter gives clear instructions on this:
“Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do.” (1 Peter 1:13-14, NIV)
Here’s what strikes me in this passage:
-We need to remain clear thinking in all situations. No matter what people or circumstances we encounter, we should view them through the lens of God’s grace. Our hope is in Him, not in being liked or accepted by others. When dealing with non-believers, we should strive to be a greater influence on them than they are on us.
-We need to remain obedient to God, regardless of what others choose. If we are in situations where people are embracing sin, we need to remember we no longer live “in ignorance” as they do. When we have the chance to shed light on sinful perspectives and behaviors that people aren’t aware of, we need to speak up with gentleness and respect. The enemy uses many methods to lie to those in our culture. We need to pray, asking God to give us words of wisdom and grace to share with those who are being misled because they don’t know any better.
-We need to remain holy and set apart in our actions and attitudes, but not in our proximity to non-believers. Living in a closed-off Christian bubble and looking down on the world around us is not the point of this verse. We are strangers here for a season, so that we can share Christ with the fallen world that desperately needs His saving grace.
Living as a stranger makes some of us weary. For others, it causes us to feel like we’re missing out. If you identify with either of these things, click on the link and be encouraged by “Strangers Here” by Tenth Avenue North.