Category: Discipleship

Following Jesus

Have you ever had a friend who wouldn’t take “no” for an answer? Someone who persisted with an invitation until you said “yes” just so she’d stop asking? For me, it was a friend many years ago who kept hounding me to attend a half-day silent retreat with her. Nothing about it appealed to me. Why would I spend precious hours without my kids to go somewhere and not talk to anyone? No worship music? No teaching? No small group discussions? No thank you. I mean, what was the point? Despite my resistance and many valid excuses, she finally wore me down.

On the morning of the retreat, I dropped off my toddler and baby with my mom and drove to a  retreat center nestled in the hills nearby. Parking my car adjacent to a lush garden and getting a glimpse of the panoramic views, I could feel my resistance beginning to fade. Ministry leaders welcomed us with fresh coffee and warm smiles (another good sign). They shared a short devotional and prayed for our morning of being alone with the Lord. Before sending us outside they gave each of us a printed reflection guide that included ideas for how to structure the time.

For a newbie like me, the written guide gave me a starting point, enabling me to relax and even enjoy the silence. I didn’t realize how much I needed to slow down and let my soul catch up with me. Being solo without interruption enabled me to examine what was on my mind and to share my heart with the Lord. Once I’d poured out my angst and worries, I had mental space to hear from God. Walking on dirt paths among the trees, I was present enough to marvel at  the beauty of creation and to  be reassured of God’s sovereignty over all things. I drove down the hill feeling refreshed, grounded, and inspired to sign up for the next silent retreat.

I smiled thinking about those retreats as I opened my Practicing the Way Reading Reflection Guide not long ago. Each week of the study includes a different practice to try on our own.  Session 01 “Following Jesus” encourages developing a daily prayer rhythm– the practice being with God intentionally through silence, solitude, and prayer. In a world of constant inputs, screens, and scrolling, the act of pulling away to be quiet before the Lord may feel intimidating or unappealing. We’re so used to the constant stream of distractions that we no longer feel comfortable being alone with our thoughts.

While I thrive being busy and feel energized by having a full plate, I also understand the value of solitude and silence– even if it’s just ten minutes first thing in the morning. This spiritual practice is more about abstinence (not doing) than action; more about training ourselves in the way of Jesus than trying harder. Setting aside a time for intentional quiet will enable us to engage God’s presence; to make space to consider our thoughts, and to share them with the Lord. It’s a chance to invite a fresh filling of the Holy Spirit so that He can equip us and guide us in the day ahead. Practicing solitude and prayer open the door for intimacy with God, producing the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control as we engage others.

In a world that prizes multi-tasking and productivity, silence and prayer feel counter-cultural. Maybe you’ll be tempted to skip this practice, but you’ll be missing a key part of the discipleship journey we’re on together. How can we “practice the way” without practice? Silence, solitude, and prayer may feel awkward and uncomfortable, but we’ll never grow if we don’t try. Think of this week’s practice like filling your car with gas or charging your electric vehicle’s battery. We can’t refuel or recharge while the car is in motion. The same is true for our souls.

Need more convincing? The gospels show Jesus prioritizing solitude and prayer throughout His ministry:

  • Mark 1:15: “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”
  • Luke 5:16: “But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.”
  • Luke 6:12 “ One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.”
  • Matthew 14:23: “After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone,”

So, if we’re sincere in our pursuit of being with Jesus, becoming like Him, and doing as He did, then solitude and prayer are the place to start. This week be intentional about spending between five and sixty minutes alone with Jesus daily. Be patient with yourself and tell God about any feelings of frustration, impatience, awkwardness, or discomfort you experience. Create space in your schedule to put the words of Psalm 46:10 into practice: “Be still, and know that I am God.” If possible, aim to do it first thing to set the tone for your day.

This week you’re also being invited to complete the “Spiritual Health Reflection” at practicingtheway.org/reflection. Again, you might be tempted to skip this, but you’ll be missing out if you do. This exercise leads you through a series of questions to consider where you are in your spiritual journey and helps you choose one area where you’d like to grow. Don’t think of this as a ranking system to rate your level of spiritual maturity, but a thermometer to gauge where your heart and mind are in this season. The time to reflect will help you to chart the course ahead as we continue learning about spiritual disciplines that can expand our capacity to receive God’s love.

*This post is part of a series based on Practicing the Way by John Mark Comer (Waterbrook Press, 2024) and weekly practices described in the eight session study guide. Order your copy of Practicing the Way using this link or buy it anywhere books are sold.

If you’re participating in a group in person at CPC Danville, copies of the Reading Reflection Guide  are available at Focused Living AM and PM and in the church office. If you’d like a digital PDF to download, please reply in the comments.

Practicing the Way of Jesus

The familiar “ding” of an incoming text message heralded an intriguing invitation: “John Mark Comer is speaking at a church in the south bay tonight. I have two free tickets if you want them. Please let me know asap.” Without hesitating, I shot back, “YES!”

I’d been reading Comer’s books and listening to his sermons and podcasts for a few years and had found his perspective to be fresh, inspiring, and biblical. So, driving an hour away on a Tuesday evening to see him in person was an easy “yes” for me. He was speaking on his latest book, Practicing the Way, which builds on his two previous books, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and Live No Lies.

Although he was well known by the audience, Comer behaved nothing like “famous” Christian speakers I’d seen in the past. There was no pacing in the back, avoiding eye contact, or making an entrance flanked by security after the lights dimmed. As guests arrived and hunted for seats, he milled around near the front row looking a bit shy and awkward. Several people seemed to know him personally and he greeted them with warmth and enthusiasm, which made sense when he mentioned later that he’d lived in the area as a child.

His message gave us a taste for the contents of his book, encouraging believers to live as apprentices of Jesus who centered their lives around being with Him, becoming like Him, and doing as He did. He invited listeners into a deeper, more authentic relationship with the Lord.

Clutching my signed copy of Practicing the Way as we headed to the parking lot, I was eager to read more about themes he’d shared with us that evening. I dove into it later that week and found it challenging, thought-provoking, and inspiring. One of Comer’s biggest assertions is that, “Much preaching of the gospel today does not call people to a life of discipleship. Following Jesus is seen as optional—a post-conversion ‘second track’ for those who want to go further.”1 He describes a dynamic I lived in younger days and  have seen in Christian circles my whole life; for many people there is a disconnect between believing in Jesus and actively engaging in a relationship with Him.

Comer points out that the word “Christian” is used only three times in the New Testament while the word “disciple” appears 269 times. He explains that a disciple is “a student of a teacher or philosopher—not just a learner but a practitioner of an embodied way of life, one who is diligently working to be with and become like their master.”2 Throughout the book, he invites us to view ourselves as apprentices of Jesus, “to walk alongside him in a posture of listening, learning, observation, obedience, and imitation.”3

Finishing Comer’s book a month later, I felt a mix of inspiration and resistance. His words felt jarring at times, but truthful. He encourages us to practice our faith using disciplines that many of us see as relics of history (including fasting and taking a Sabbath weekly). Yet he shows how the practices move us from the passivity of good intentions to intimacy with Jesus that produces spiritual fruit and deep joy. Drawing from Scripture and faithful people in earlier generations, Comer encourages readers to expand their capacity to receive God’s love and to respond with action. The book guides us to practice what Paul describes in Romans:

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (Romans 12:1-2, NIV)

I’ve been making incremental changes in my life and spiritual practices ever since I read the book several years ago. It’s been encouraging to recognize transformation in myself that has affected  how I engage God and others. Still, one thing that’s  nagged at me is Comer’s regular emphasis on community and the importance of doing many of the practices with others. Living in such an over-scheduled, fast-paced community, I feared that no one would want to read the book or be open to evaluating and changing the rhythms of their lives. I’ve prayed about it on and off, trusting God would bring an opportunity when the time was right.

So, imagine my delight when our church pastoral team posed the idea of inviting multiple ministries in our congregation to read Practicing the Way, learn about spiritual disciplines, and try putting them into practice together this fall. There will be opportunities to read, study related Scripture, hear teaching, and expand our comfort zones alongside others. It will be awkward and uncomfortable at times, but if we can push through and trust the Lord, there will be abundant opportunities for life-giving experiences and spiritual growth.

Practicing the Way isn’t simply a book, curriculum, or program, but an invitation to a way of life with Jesus at the center. Like me, you may have moments of resistance along with way. You may read something challenging and just need to sit with it for a while and pray. Rest assured, this isn’t an all or nothing pursuit. Nor is it an attempt to push those who read it to do every practice or to have identical faith journeys. It’s an opportunity to make an intentional shift in focus that invites the Lord to move in your life in new ways.

If you’re up for joining me in this endeavor, pray for a mindset of curiosity, wisdom, and discernment as you approach the material. Also, pray for the hearts of others you’ll be learning alongside. Let’s be open and expectant together, inviting the Lord to use what we learn in the next few months to help us be with Jesus, become like Him, and do as He did.

Order your copy of Practicing the Way using this link or buy it anywhere books are sold.

If you’re participating in a group in person at CPC Danville, copies of the Reading Reflection Guide will be given out at Focused Living AM and PM and are also available in the church office. If you’d like a digital PDF to download, please reply in the comments.

  1. John Mark Comer, Practicing the Way, Waterbrook Press 2024, 16.
  2. John Mark Comer, Practicing the Way, Waterbrook Press 2024, 11.
  3. ibid

Freedom from the Law

My son had a neighborhood friend in elementary school who often showed up at our house unannounced. Abandoning his bike on our front walkway, he’d knock at the door in search of a playmate. Ushering him inside, I’d suggest that he leave his helmet with his bike, but he always declined. An hour later, I’d find the boys surrounded by colorful Legos hunched over their latest creations. I’d chuckle to myself noticing his friend still sporting the helmet. Even when it no longer applied to the circumstances, he followed the law.

While it’s not an exact parallel, I pictured my son’s friend as I read Paul’s words of concern to the Galatian believers observing obsolete religious laws. They have begun listening to  teachers called “Judaizers” who tell them that to be true followers of Christ they must follow Jewish laws regarding circumcision and dietary restrictions. This is a direct contradiction to a significant event involving Peter recorded in Acts 10.

In this story the Lord appears to Peter in a vision and erases dietary laws that divide Jews and Gentiles. The Holy Spirit then sends Peter to the home of a Gentile believer named Cornelius. Peter tells him: “You know it is against our laws for a Jewish man to enter a Gentile home like this or to associate with you. But God has shown me that I should no longer think of anyone as impure or unclean. ” (Acts 10:28-29 NLT) Later, back in Jerusalem, Peter explains to the other church leaders, “Since God gave these Gentiles the same gift [of the Holy Spirit] he gave us when we believed in the Lord Jesus Christ, who was I to stand in God’s way?” (Acts 11:17, NLT)

Now, around a decade later Paul shares a disconcerting story about Peter in Galatians 2. Paul and his ministry partner, Barnabas, have been living in the city of Antioch and teaching believers the way of Jesus. When Peter first arrives to visit, he joins them in eating with Gentile believers. Later, however, Peter reverts to old Jewish laws and Paul calls out his hypocrisy: “When [Peter] first arrived, he ate with the Gentile believers, who were not circumcised. But afterward, when some friends of James came, Peter wouldn’t eat with the Gentiles anymore. He was afraid of criticism from these people who insisted on the necessity of circumcision. As a result, other Jewish believers followed Peter’s hypocrisy, and even Barnabas was led astray by their hypocrisy.” (Galatians 2:12-13, NLT)

Imagine how hurtful and confusing Peter’s actions must have been for Gentile believers who had enjoyed fellowship with him around the table.  They’d been grafted into the family of God by faith in Christ, but now they’re treated as second class citizens. Peter’s role as an influential leader prompts Paul to act. He refuses to sit back and remain silent because a true understanding of God’s grace is at stake.

Rebuking Peter, Paul says, “You and I are Jews by birth, not ‘sinners’ like the Gentiles. Yet we know that a person is made right with God by faith in Jesus Christ, not by obeying the law. And we have believed in Christ Jesus, so that we might be made right with God because of our faith in Christ, not because we have obeyed the law. For no one will ever be made right with God by obeying the law.” (Galatians 2:15-16, NLT) Never one to shrink from the truth, Paul confronts Peter here to keep the gospel from becoming distorted.

Reading this story makes me think of a pendulum swinging between  legalism and grace that occurs in Christian communities.

One extreme happens when believers have a “checklist” mentality. Elizabeth Woodson describes this as legalism: “the belief that our salvation is directly linked to our actions.”1 She also says it’s the “belief that we earn or keep God’s favor by what we do or don’t do.”2 For those of who like routines or struggle with people pleasing, we may let practices intended to help us grow our faith swing us toward legalism. It happens when we feel guilty for missing a quiet time or a worship service; when we say “yes” to serving out of obligation rather than calling; when we give money out of guilt instead of with a generous or joyful spirit. Legalism also creeps in when we see sacraments like Communion or Baptism as requirements to prove our faith rather than expressions of it. When we start engaging in spiritual practices to fulfill an obligation rather than as an outpouring of our love for the Lord, we may be flirting with legalism.

If this feels familiar, here are a few questions to ask yourself: Do I practice certain spiritual disciplines to feel acceptable to God? Am I trying to earn or keep God’s favor by what I do? Am I encouraging those I love to do the same?

The other extreme overemphasizes and misinterprets grace. In this mindset, believers view freedom in Christ as license to do whatever they want. They accept the “free gift” of salvation without considering that it cost Jesus His life; they fail to understand the magnitude of the spiritual exchange taking place. Instead of experiencing transformation by the Spirit, they live no differently than the world–whether it’s the language they use, the entertainment they enjoy, the amount of alcohol they consume, their focus on consumerism and materialism, their sexual practices, etc.

Grace doesn’t give us license to do whatever we want, but freedom to walk in manner worthy of our calling in Christ (Ephesians 4:1). Followers of Jesus are no longer in bondage to sin because we’ve been cleansed by the blood of Christ and have the strength, wisdom, and power of the Holy Spirit to lead us. (Ephesians 5:25) .

If your pendulum swings more toward the “freedom” side, consider asking yourself: Is my way of expressing freedom leading me to look more like the world or more like Jesus? Could  my words, attitudes, and behaviors cause confusion to those younger in faith? Is my lifestyle spurring on others to walk in the way of Jesus?

Whether you lean more toward legalism and rules or misunderstood grace and “freedom,” pray and ask the Lord to bring you back into alignment, living by this truth: “My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. I do not treat the grace of God as meaningless. For if keeping the law could make us right with God, then there was no need for Christ to die.” (Galatians 2:20-21, NLT)

  1. Elizabeth Woodson, Live Free: A Study of Galatians, Lifeway, 2025,  50.
  2. ibid, quoted from session 2 video

Inspired by Live Free: A Study of Galatians by Elizabeth Woodson, Lifeway, 2025. Follow along by ordering your copy here.

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Reflecting on 2025 Before Launching 2026

Walking in my neighborhood, I spied several families already taking down lights and removing lawn decorations. At home, pine needles shedding from my Christmas tree announce the final days of the “most wonderful time of the year.” The holiday season is coming to a close, but regular life hasn’t kicked back into gear yet for some of us. It’s the perfect opportunity to reflect on the past twelve months in preparation for the year ahead. Will you consider joining me in pondering the three questions below before you get swept into the current of 2026?

  1. What shaped your character, faith, and worldview?

I try to be intentional about what I allow into my mind since the things we read, watch, listen to, and experience all affect our mental, emotional, spiritual, and relational health. Here are few inputs that have shaped me positively in 2025:

Bible in a Year:  I always made excuses for not committing to reading the Bible in a year, but in 2025 I gave it a try using a chronological reading plan on the YouVersion app. Instead of going through a devotional book, I started reading Scripture daily on my phone while eating breakfast.  I’d be lying if I didn’t confess a few sections were a bit of a slog, but overall, the experience enhanced my understanding of the Bible’s cohesiveness. Reading it chronologically also brought depth and context to the specific books I studied with groups during the year (Revelation and Matthew).  I benefitted from  my daily reading so much, I’m doing it again in 2026. Want to join me? Studies show that reading the Bible four times or more each week is a key indicator of life transformation.1 Let me know if you’re giving it a try.

Studying Revelation: I’ve always shied away from the last book of the Bible but when my women’s Bible study at church chose Jen Wilkin’s Revelation workbook, I dove in headfirst. Writing blogs about this apocalyptic book for ten weeks felt like being back in college. Despite the challenge, I realized that I’ve been missing out on understanding the whole story of Scripture by avoiding Revelation. With a reliable teacher guiding me and the wisdom of the Holy Spirit, even the most intimidating book of the Bible became not only accessible, but inspiring.

Books: A few years ago, a friend gave me Name Above All Names by Alastair Begg and Sinclair Ferguson. Finally making time to read it this year, I see it as a new classic. Examining seven key qualities of Jesus’ identity and ministry helped me to have a clearer picture of who He is and all He has done for us. I also re-read an old classic: Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis. So many familiar examples we use to explain our faith find their roots in Lewis’ writing. Classic books and older authors sometimes don’t grab our attention the way popular or current ones do, but many newer books just re-package great writers’  ideas. Will you consider reading or listening to at least one classic book this year that will expand your knowledge about the Lord or some aspect of your faith journey?

Practical Podcasts: Among the many I listened to, one that consistently expanded my knowledge and spurred on my faith was Susie Larson Live. Susie’s knowledge of Scripture and desire to bring health and wholeness to her listeners’ minds, bodies, and spirits provide meaningful content and clear action steps.

Now, that you’ve read my answers, consider what shaped your character and worldview this year for better or for worse. What will you add or eliminate for 2026 so that the world shapes you less and the Holy Spirit shapes you more?

2) Where did you see God at work? How did you grow personally and/or spiritually?

In-Person Discipleship: Studying the Bible with small groups of high school girls regularly and mentoring a few college girls one on one showed me the power of consistent connection. Asking the Spirit to use the gifts, wisdom, and knowledge He’s given me has led to relationships that have blessed me beyond measure. I’ve seen that growth happens little by little studying God’s Word together. As relationships deepen, trust grows, and life transformation occurs for everyone involved.

If you’re a mature believer, will you pray and invite the Lord to use you to walk alongside someone younger in faith this year? And if you’re new to faith or just checking things out, will you ask the Lord to lead you to a spiritually mature person who can help you learn and grow?

Stillness and Silence: I am a person of action, but the Lord has reminded me that I need to slow myself to His pace instead of demanding that He move at mine (which is usually faster and involves less patience.) Through slowing down over the holiday season and practicing silence and stillness daily, I experienced some profound moments with the Lord. In one instance, He convicted me of sin, in another He reminded me to seek Him for comfort about a situation I was grieving. During another time of stillness He reminded me that even good things like family and friends can become idols that take His rightful place on the throne of my life. Had I been rushing through the holiday season and using busyness to avoid confronting pain, I would have missed hearing from the Lord.

Fasting: Studying the Gospel of Matthew recently, I was struck by a statement Jesus makes in the Sermon on the Mount: “When you fast, do not look somber as the hypocrites do…put oil on your head and wash your face, so that it will not be obvious to others that you are fasting.” (5:16a, 17, 18a) Jesus assumes that His followers fast regularly, and although I’ve practiced it from time to time, this has never been a regular discipline for me. So, in the past few months, I’ve given it a try. Fasting has been a physical way to direct my energy (and angst) when I’m praying for something that feels beyond me. I’m still learning, but it’s been a surprisingly positive experience thus far.

Now, how did you grow personally and/or spiritually in the past year?

3) Where will you focus your energy in 2026?

I want to be used by God to bless others, make disciples, expand His kingdom, and bring Him glory. I want to trust God with the unknowns that lie ahead. I pray the Lord will expand my capacity to receive His Spirit and that He will use my time, resources, and gifts to pour into others and point them toward Him. This year I hope to grow in my understanding of God’s grace and to recognize I am never above needing it. I also hope to re-route some of my unhealthy thought patterns by asking the Lord to help me take my thoughts captive (2 Cor 10:5) and renew my mind (Romans 12:1-2).

Before launching into 2026, take some time to ponder where you’ve been. Reflecting on the past helps us to be more intentional about the future. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and shun evil. This will bring health to your body and nourishment to your bones.” (Proverbs 3:5-8, NIV) Happy New Year!

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  1. “Bible Engagement and ‘The Power of 4’: A Key to Spiritual Growth”, Center for Bible Engagement